Most sexually abused children are being traumatized by their tragic experience. Just like the dark family secret that was revealed by teen sisters after their mother’s father abused them.
Sydney and Raechel were 10 and 8, they were sexually abused by their mother’s father. They revealed the story seven years later and since then, they say their family has been torn apart. They say they testified against their grandfather and he is now serving 86 years in prison, but that their mom cannot seem to let the past go.
“We had this man put in prison, and I want to move forward, and my mother won’t let me,” says Sydney. “My mother is hard-headed, loud and very obnoxious, and I find her to be crazy.”
Raechel adds, “My mom is very obsessed with talking about the molestation. She brings it up at the most random times. It’s extremely embarrassing.”
The sisters say their mom has become consumed with anger since learning about the abuse and say that she takes her rage out on the family.
“The night I had my mother kicked out of our house, we got into a huge fight where she picked me up by my throat and smacked me across the face,” Sydney says. “I did not want my mother to move back home, and she wasn’t supposed to. My father just decided he was going to let her come back. I deserved an apology first,” the mother describes the day she learned her daughters were molested by her father.
She returned home after three months, and the sisters say their relationships have not improved and that their parents’ marriage is now on the verge of divorce.
“My family needs a lot of help. They are very broken,” Raechel says.
According to Dr. Phil, there comes a time when we have to leave the past in the past and stop beating up on ourselves. If you have guilt about your previous actions toward parent or child, choose to forgive your self. Once you have forgiven yourself and your loved one, you can rebuild your relationship without focusing on past conflicts. Commit to renegotiating the relationship with new boundaries.
Don’t expect your relationship to change overnight. Move forward together at a pace that is comfortable for both of you. If you take three steps forward and run into a problem, allow yourself to take a step back. When you are ready, take a step forward again.