A mother has been criticized after writing a Facebook post intended to “shame” her 12-year-old son for “bullying” a new girl at his school.
Terry Day Evans, thought to live in Wales, posted a status update on February 22nd saying she was “absolutely disgusted” with her son’s behaviour.
The boy, she said, had “[seen] fit to purposefully tread on a new girls foot at school and twist his foot with such force it broke her brand new shoes (causing the heel) to snap.”
Tagging her son into her post, Ms Day wrote: “If you so much as breath in her or anyone’s direction in a bullying manner I will personally hand you over to their parents for every demeaning chore they see fit for as long as they do… kiss goodbye to your birthday money as you will be buying the girl a new pair of shoes and a bunch of flowers!”
The status update has been shared more than 58,000 times, and attracted hundreds of comments before the author eventually removed it from her Facebook page.
Many readers supported Ms Evans’ efforts to discipline her son, while others accused her of hypocrisy, “bullying” her son in the same way he’d apparently treated his classmate.
“I understand that you wanted to embarrass your son a little for his actions,” said one, “but … outing him on FB is a bully move. He clearly got his behaviour from you. Shame that you aren’t realising that.”
Another said: “Why extend the humiliation? Your poor son. This will haunt him forever. A mistake at 12, online now for all to see.”
Ms Evans updated her post to defend her actions, saying: “I don’t much care who doesn’t agree with my parenting style, my son humiliated and embarrassed a girl, regardless of his reasoning that little girl still cried.
“For anyone’s knowledge that girl may have left her old school because she was being bullied… then imagine how much worse my son’s ridiculous act would have made her feel.”
“So my so called embarrassing him online is … nothing in comparison to the humiliation that little girl had to face walking round with a broken shoe and red eyes from crying when she is new.”
In a further public post, she said; “I stand wholly by his punishment but regret that it went as viral as it did.
“As for my son, when I told him it went viral and it was in media his comments were ‘oh well, I’m not bothered.'”
“What works disciplinary-wise for one parent and child is completely different to another. My son is not a bully he’s an numpty who made a mistake, nipping it in the bud prevented it from becoming an occurrence resulting in him being label one or worse still becoming a bully.
“Maybe if other parents nipped it in the bud and stopped passing it off as kids will be kids then maybe our next generation of adults will suffer with fewer depressive and anxietal disorders.”