A distraught mother who woke to find her husband had suddenly died while sleeping on the sofa, urged couples never to go to bed angry.
Mum-of-three Ashley Murray, 33, said she had a heated row with Mikey, 36, because of his long shifts at work. When the argument wasn’t resolved before bed, she told him to sleep on the sofa.
She later discovered that her husband – who worked as a carpet cleaner – had been working extra hours so he could save for a trip to Prague together for their anniversary.
“He would work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week just so he could save up enough to take us all to Disney every year. He was so worn out but he would do anything just to see us smile.
But the hours he was working were just getting too much. He was so exhausted all the time and he was running himself into the ground and his health was going downhill fast.
When he came home that night he was a mess, I have never seen him so exhausted. I couldn’t stand seeing him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it.”
But when beauty therapist Ashley work up the next morning, she found her loving husband’s body lying cold and discolored “exactly where she left him”.
Completely devastated, Ashley broke down at the sight of Mikey’s body and couldn’t stop screaming ‘he’s dead’ before running into the street and blacking out from the grief.
“I had a go at him and told him to sleep on the sofa which was stupid because I really just wanted him around more”, she continued. “When I came out of the bedroom and saw him the next morning I knew something was wrong straight away. He was lying exactly where I left him and his face was all discolored – he looked grey”, she added. “When the ambulance came and they confirmed he was dead I collapsed onto the floor and I was sick. Nothing made sense.”
Because their final night was spent in angry, Ashley says the tragic incident has changed her “perspective on life.”
“I felt so guilty. I was so angry with myself for making him sleep on the sofa. I still find it so hard to think that my last words to him were out of anger. When I found out he’d been saving to take us on an anniversary holiday it was awful – heartbreaking doesn’t begin to cover it. Losing Mikey has changed my entire perspective on life. Life is too short to go to bed angry and not to spend every moment you can with your family.”
A post-mortem revealed Mikey choked in his sleep but the cause behind it is ‘inconclusive’, The Daily Mail reports.
Mrs Murray blames a back injury from weight lifting for his decline.
“After his injury Mikey never properly healed. Even when he was at his worst he would push himself with work and any time he had off he’d be doing everything with the kids.”
In her eulogy at her husband’s funeral on June 8, Mrs Murray said, “Go kiss your loved ones and tell them you care. Let them know you love them as they may not always be there.”
In the months since Mikey’s death, friends of the family have revealed that Ashley has now found love in his brother Chris.